tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4154405870041249691.post8416995861007062072..comments2023-09-28T10:57:04.386-04:00Comments on Tracie Miles: Fill Your Marriage Box With ChristTracie Mileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17191555760519183027noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4154405870041249691.post-50366074737939913182011-08-31T19:41:06.426-04:002011-08-31T19:41:06.426-04:00Mechelle, I encourage you to seek Christian counse...Mechelle, I encourage you to seek Christian counseling, either from your pastor or a therapist, right away. It has helped me so much as I tend to be a passive people-pleaser and my husband tends to be a controller. I pray that you will have the courage to seek help because it will strengthen you to fight the battles in your marriage. Also check out the books "Boundaries" and "Boundaries in Marriage" by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Those books changed my life more than any others, besides daily study of my one year Bible (vital too!). A great Bible study that will give you tools and understanding is Martha Peace's "The Excellent Wife." Seek God for help and you will be blessed!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4154405870041249691.post-4124628356367492562011-08-22T18:44:23.774-04:002011-08-22T18:44:23.774-04:00I needed this post today & I've read it tw...I needed this post today & I've read it twice today with tears overflowing. I see the boxes in the picture & I wish I could just put my belongings in those boxes & never look back. In life I've has goals, dreams & seemed to be heading toward a successful life. Marriage & children were in my dreams at a early child.I was so prepared so I thought. 7 1/2yrs. of marriage and year after year I've hung in there thinking things will would get better.I married someone that had been married before & I thought I asked all the right questions, I thought beening that he had been married before that our marriage would be awesome! The marriage happened so fast & the planning was so exciting. Things happened that would make any bride break down but I was so happy I didn't care what was going on around me. Now that I look at some of the things that happened I often think that maybe God was trying to get my attention but I didn't recongized God's voice! The 2nd week of marriage I remembered how I wished I was famous so I could have annulment like the Rich & Famous. I noticed a that my husband liked for me to spend all day with him. He didn't want anyone coming over our house, he would call all day long when I was at hld my mother that he hoped that I wouldn't be spending a lot of time over her housse, he noticed when anyone would look at me & would question me if I knew them or not,he didn't want any neighbors talking to me,we would go out with other christian married couple but he would always find a reason why he didn't want to be bothered with them, so now none of my friends will come over or invite us over their house and he likes it that way. Yep, I didn't see that I was being islated. We now have a son & things are the same. He has 2 friends that he has & one of them he wants to take my son around but I've asked to meet his friend & the wife but he gives me excuses why we can't meet. He has a made case of Road Rage & I thank God that we are still alive because of his behavior. You see my heart is heavy because I don't know what to do & I've waited for a change and nothing has changed. I asked to reveal who this person is that I've married & I heard God's voice. As I listened to God I wondered how this could happen. How could I marry someone like this because I've never hung around anyone like this in my life!I often think that God didn't choose this person for me but I chose him when maybe God was trying to get my attention to warn me.I don't know what I am suppose to do now. God just keeps revealing things to me. When I said I do I stopped being me because being me brings people in if you know what I mean. I am a people person & I make friends any where I go & this would always have my husband on edge. My son is 3 & I saw something my husband did to him I feel that was the time God showed me something else about the man I married. I feel so hurt because I think that this is the time I should have just stood up & spoke up but I didn't. I am not sure how long does one wait for things to change before they so okay this is it......... I know this is a long letter but I am not sure when one stops fighting for their marriage. I now have bad anxiety.....Mechellenoreply@blogger.com